Last week I had a moment. Probably the kind of moment that happens multiple times a day but this time something was different. Here’s what happened.
While I was driving my teenager to her practice, we had a great conversation. The kind of conversation that, as a parent, feels like we got to a deeper level than the usual “did you get your homework done?” We stopped on our way at the co-op to pick up her favorite bread and a cup of coffee for me. And a cookie. A cardamom cookie. MY FAVORITE. I dropped her off and carried on my way when a song I like came on the radio (Beastie Boys “Pass the Mic,” if you must know, and yes, I turn it up loud in the car).
Good conversation, coffee in hand, cardamom cookie, beats coming through the speakers. Not a big deal, right?
But for a moment all felt delightful. And while I probably have delightful moments throughout the day, what was different this day was that I noticed the delight.
The next day I listened to This American Life and the topic was...delight.
The host for the day, Bim Adewunmi, interviewed poet Ross Gay who spent every day for a whole year writing down what delighted him. He specifically set out to be curious about what delighted him. Gay said, “I was learning as I was going. And frankly, I was learning how much some of these things delighted me. The question is always, why does that delight me? What does it do to a person to study delight? Delight and curiosity are really tied up. You have to be OK with not knowing things. You have to be actually invested and happy about not knowing things.” In their conversation Bim Adewunmi reflects that what Gay discovers is “the mechanics of how to find delight every day as a discipline. Because delight doesn't just arrive, you need to actively go looking for it.”
As I listened to the whole episode I decided, no, I felt called to start paying better attention to delight and even start actively looking for it. My starting point was the day before and that conversation, cup of coffee, cardamom cookie, and the Beastie Boys. I wrote it down as delight #1.
Delight is all around us but it takes special eyes, special ears, and sometimes a special pace to notice it. Delight can jump up in our faces like an eager, jumpy dog, but I suspect that most often delight is a subtle thing, asking us to turn on our curiousity in order to discover it. Can we live at a pace that allows us to raise our heads to see delight when it is in view? Can we live at a pace that allows us to hear the bird song, the laughter of a friend, the Holy Spirit calling us on the breeze? Can we live at a pace that gives us enough space to be curious about feeling of delight when it wraps itself around our shoulders?
What if this was your spiritual discipline? What if, every day, or every week, you kept track of what delights you? What if the work your soul is calling you to right now is the work of noticing, being curious about, or actively looking for delight? What might surprise you? How might you be changed by this discipline? I’m keeping track. I’m on day three of delights and I can’t wait to see what’s next.
(public service announcement for when you are having a down day: listen to act two of this episode because your heart will melt. The interview with poet Ross Gay is act one.)
https://www.thisamericanlife.org/692/the-show-of-delights